Breaking up stinks. And nowadays, the heartbroken not only have to handle the in-person suffering, but they also have to go through a virtual breakup. We imagine this is especially difficult for those going through their first break-up. Well fear not, young scorned lovers. To help the wounded make it out alive of their first (of probably many) awkward and hurtful digital splittings, in this week's New York Times Magazine's Benoit Denizet-Lewis, among other news organizations, has some useful advice from digital-love experts for the dumped in a digital age.
Easy on the Facebook status updates. When a relationship ends in person, it also ends online. For 17-year-old Roberto, that means changing his Relationship Status to single immediately. "When I’m done with a relationship, I’m not going to wait a day, an hour or even 10 minutes to update my status," Denizet-Lewis reports. "When it’s over, it’s over. I’m done with you." But, maybe that's not so healthy. Take a moment. "Is that really healthy? Breaking up shouldn’t be a competition," a fellow teen explains to Roberto.
A status update does not suffice as an official break-up. That's not cool. "And is it ever ethically defensible to change your relationship status to single without first notifying the person whose heart you’re crushing?" asks Denizet-Lewis.