In a new New York Times magazine article, Judith Warner talks to three women--two white and one black--who were privileged high achievers before having children. Warner's article is a follow-up to Lisa Belkin's 2003 piece, "The Opt-Out Revolution," in which Belkin talked to high-achieving women who had deliberately decided to step out of the workforce to focus on raising their children. At the time, the women interviewed expressed the feelings that they were being pulled in too many directions and were finding their jobs the least fulfilling parts of their lives. Since they had the option (because of high-earning spouses) to leave the workforce, they were choosing to focus on their children. This new article revisits these women a decade later. After several thousand words in which Warner bemoans the perfectly ordinary life struggles of her subjects (one divorce, one career renaissance but marriage trouble, one unemployment causing marital tension), she makes an attempt at a thesis: The women she interviewed were foolish to opt out back in 2000. She writes, "Beyond the personal losses -- the changes in the dynamic of a marriage or the cumulative financial effects of many years of not working -- there is the collective impact to consider." Had they been less deluded, Warner implies, things would be different now for these women, our brightest and best. The focus on opting out only tells part of the story, which is that it's hard to survive and keep a marriage together, even for educated, privileged mostly-white people.
Blaming struggles of a limited group on personal choice is bad social science. Warner doesn't look at how well the women who stayed in the workforce are faring now, or how the men in their cohort are faring now. Without these comparisons there's no way to know if the women who opted out are doing substantially worse than they might have had they stayed in. Warner sensationalizes the stories of the three victims of her piece and makes them sound like true cautionary tales, but doesn't give any context. Sheilah O'Donnel might only be making a fifth of what she made thirteen years ago, but that means she's making $100,000, which the majority of the country would be thrilled to earn (and which puts her in the top 21 percent of the country, according to the NYTimes' own interactive income ranker from January 2012). Carrie Chimerine Irvin is thrilled with her job, but Warner still implicitly criticizes her by saying that the problems in her marriage are a result of Irvin's choices because Irvin's husband "had to adjust to the loss of her attention when she first shifted it to their daughters and then to her new job." Kuae Kelch Mattox, a journalist before she opted out, is painted as being in a pitiable situation for being unable to find a high-powered job after opting out, but Warner doesn't explore what has happened to journalists who stayed in the field the entire time and are having similar problems with under-employment.