I’ve gone through life pretending, and my heart aches.
My parents recently divorced, and I’m not ready to spend the holiday with new people.
She’s been bringing a steady stream of men back to my house, and her behavior is testing my patience.
He says he’s bisexual, but I’m worried he’s actually gay.
What I do, or don’t do, with my uterus is nobody’s business.
I’ve forgiven her, but I can’t forgive him.
His parents spanked him as a child, and he insists the punishment has shaped him positively.
She doesn’t want her estranged family to attend. I want to respect her wishes, but am not sure the excluded family members will.
If she stays with her current partner, I’m worried that she’ll end up alone, childless, and unhappy.
I now know intimate details about his sexual preferences, and feel like I can’t interact with him normally.
After five years of being her caregiver, I couldn’t bear the emotional or financial costs alone any longer.
I want to have a good relationship with her, but I feel overwhelmed by her negativity.
His 5-year-old and I used to have a positive relationship, but lately he's been nothing but rude and mean.
I want to respect her wishes, but I feel hurt and confused by her request.
I need to talk to him about our future, but he can’t handle it.
During my parents’ divorce, nearly 30 years ago, my father kidnapped me. He and I now have a good relationship, but my mother has never forgiven him.
In his final days, I didn’t show him the love and care he deserved.
I miss the closeness we had before our baby was born.
She said that she loves me but doesn’t want to be with me.
After we cheated on each other 26 years ago, we promised to never let outsiders into our marriage again. But for more than two years, he’s been carrying on some sort of friendship with a woman from his high school.
I’m not sure why I’m reacting so strongly to hearing about conflicts at school.
He wants to take pictures with her and their daughter like they’re still one happy family—and I want him to stop.
She thought that her daughter would want to meet her one day. Twenty-five years later, that’s not true.
My husband and I live close to him, but he rarely visits us.
Listening to my friends talk about their relationship problems is getting really tough.
I’ve tried to be respectful to my ex-wife and keep things private, but our mutual friends seem to be taking her side.
Every time I try to talk about my problem, I just start crying.
She just told me she’s gay. I’ve already talked to her about sex with boys—how do I talk to her about girls?
His mother had to give up her first boy for adoption, and she never told her second son. I don’t know whether I owe him the truth.
He has adapted to her behavior over the years, but I don’t know how to coexist with her.
As he and his ex are nearing the end of their divorce process, I’m not sure how much I can actually trust him.
Our birth-control methods failed, and we can’t afford a second child financially or career-wise.
Her relationship shows all the typical signs of emotional manipulation and physical harm, but she refuses to admit that there’s a problem.
She picks fights, doesn’t listen to others, and makes everyone uncomfortable. Nobody wants to invite her to events—and I feel awful about it.
I want to be there for him, but his depressive episodes are difficult for me to handle.
Before her health took a turn for the worse, we had both agreed that we should end our 14-year marriage.
He has grades and test scores that I think should qualify him for the Ivy League—but he’s also white and upper-middle-class.
I want to reestablish our connection, but she won’t even acknowledge me at family events.
I thought something was off about one of her new friends—and my suspicions were right.
His ex-wife is constantly texting and calling him about problems with their kids, and I can’t help but feel annoyed.
We’ve been dating for a while and have talked about marriage, but I’m worried that he’s still scared of commitment.
My younger sister is constantly anxious whenever she comes to visit, and I want to help without completely draining myself.
My supervisor isn’t allowed to give me more details for the sake of anonymity, and I don’t know how to change without changing my entire personality.
After a weekend of not speaking to me, she collapsed and cut my wedding night short, and I don’t know how to deal with the resentment I still feel.
His parents give a lot of financial support to his twin brother and sister-in-law, and I wish they’d do the same for us.
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I don’t really care about the presents themselves—I just want to know what prompted the change.
They say they’re trying to protect me and my brothers during the divorce process, but they’re dragging us into their problems.
My co-workers got a big promotion that I didn’t get, and I can’t bring myself to be happy for them.
I want to confront my aunts, but the time is never right.
I’m tired of feeling like I’m putting more effort into our relationship than he is.
My mom nags me all the time, and my grandpa’s health is declining. What can I do to be happier?
Would it make things better or worse to tell them how he abused me, more than 10 years later?
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On one hand, we don’t get along. On the other, he lives 10 minutes away.
And I worry that if my now-boyfriend cheated with me, he might cheat on me.
I feel a need to help them understand she's wired differently. Should I intervene?
Should I just accept that this will be a celibate marriage? Should I leave?
She refuses to hang out with him, and it’s destroying our friendship.
Her constant criticism makes interacting with her difficult, and I don’t know how to respond.
It seems like they’re picking sides, and I don’t know how to respond.