After hearing from dozens of traditionalist Christians and as many gays and lesbians about recent clashes, I can report that many members of both groups feel under siege—and many don't really get why members of the other group feel besieged, too.
If you're a religious believer surrounded by coreligionists and exposed to their Facebook feeds, your notion of America's cultural landscape is shaped by stories of traditionalists being denounced as bigots, compared to segregationists, and having their ability to provide for their families threatened for publicly opposing gay marriage. Many sitcoms, dramas, and newscasts you watch on national television portray social liberals as enlightened and relatable, and religious people as hateful yokels. Hollywood movies are very unlikely to reflect your world view. The substance of your positions is mischaracterized so often you think it must be deliberate. The culture tells you, "you're on the wrong side of history." And you wonder if, say, your ability to home school your children or your church's ability to qualify as a nonprofit organization will be threatened or taken away.
What you're unlikely to see is America as it looks from the perspective of many gays and lesbians. You're unlikely to see inside homes where parents react to kids coming out of the closet by emotionally abusing them. You're unlikely to see what it's like for a gay kid to walk the halls of the local high school. You're unlikely to know anyone who committed suicide due partly to hate to which they were subjected. And you're even unlikely to know about aspects of gay life that are public facts.