Another reader, Andrew Dashiell, brings a new angle to our discussion over Arielle Bernstein’s piece on the Marie Kondo approach to clutter:
I grew up as a military brat, moving every 18-36 months. Every move was preceded by something of a paring down. Even though I’ve now lived for 35 years in one state, I still maintain a tidy, minimalist accumulation of possessions that I can pack up and move quickly if needed.
Interestingly, as my own personal economic fortunes have drastically declined, I find that the ability to live comfortably with little serves me well and makes me happy. It also frees up resources for the experiences that leave no physical trace but please me the most.
Another reader can relate:
I was an Army brat too, and we also moved every 36 months. My parents mantra for me while I was packing or cleaning my room? “When in doubt, throw it out.”
Or make three piles—things you absolutely need, things you should get rid of, and things you’re not sure about—and purge the last two piles.
I was also a military brat, but I moved even more than every 36 months because my parents—both Army officers—were divorced and had shared custody of my brother and me. My mom was pretty normal as far as possessions, but my dad was an compulsive collector—of antiques, of furniture, of heirlooms, of used cars, of tractors … the heavier the stuff, the better. He had a penchant for potbelly stoves—cast iron, man-sized relics that had to transported in several pieces—and his preferred ride was a ‘70s-era Lincoln Continental, a boat of a car.
One of my dad’s proudest moments in life is setting the weight record for a move at Fort Leavenworth, Kansas, the Army base he retired from: 49,000 pounds. (For comparison, the weight limit the military would cover was 17,500 pounds.)