A new reader with a new angle on the popular thread:
I adopted my daughter when she was seven. She is now 22. I have been a hands-on dad, and I cherish our close relationship.
The circumstances of the adoption are that my daughter’s birthfather was unwilling to take financial or parental responsibility for her. I was married to her mother and was raising her as my own. Her birthfather refused to pay child support and saw her rarely, so we approached him about adoption. His only question was whether or not it would mean that he could legally avoid child support. Told that he would be off the hook, he signed papers assenting to her adoption. I expected to see little of him after that.
I was surprised that upon the inception of the adoption, the birthfather began calling my daughter frequently, demanding that she visit him, making her feel guilty for abandoning him.