Many readers are responding to the question posed by the above video: “Can single people be happy?”
Why not ask the other question: “Are married people necessarily happy?” The most unhappy person is one who is legally married but living in isolation internally.
Another reader sighs:
Of course singles can be happy, as well as married people, divorced people, cohabiting people, and people who have been all of that at one point or another in their life. They also can be miserable, as well as married people, divorced people, cohabiting people and people who have been all of that at one point or another in their life. “Happy” is not a goal; it’s a byproduct of having a life that is meaningful and fulfilling for the individual—no one else.
This reader will probably never get married:
I’m a career bachelor, and frankly, I’ve only ever been miserable when I’m in a relationship. There are three and a half billion women in the world. I see no reason to tie myself down permanently.
Another is on the same page:
I think that marriage is fine for some but not all. Myself, I find “friends with benefits” to be a much better relationship.
Neither of us has to worry about the other cheating because we don’t own each other to begin with. We get along with each other much better because we don’t fight over little things like the TV remote, the thermostat setting, or who does what chores. And yet we still have “benefits,” lol.
Another adds, “Now if people would get off their high horse about hooking up, we could do away with the pretense of small talk and forced dinners.” From a single lady:
I was married for over 20 years, and I was also single until I was 30 years old, so I’ve had a chance to experience both lifestyles. I have been single for four years now, and I can definitely say that I’m truly happy.
I enjoy my freedom and my space. I am enjoying my daughter as a young adult (she’s a junior in college). I also enjoy spending time with my four sisters, my gal pals, and my male companion. Sometimes it’s pure joy having only kettle corn and red wine for dinner. (I’m a great cook, by the way). I am delighted to volunteer for a local non-profit, I’m completing my Masters Degree, and I’ve taken up yoga on a dare from one of my coworkers.
I am grateful for the blessings of a large family, lifelong friends, and an opportunity to meet new people almost everyday. I would never waste a second pining over the change in my marital status; there’s just too many wonderful things that this life has to offer.
Another reader has a more pessimistic view of marriage:
Men get most of the benefits in marriage. Most of the women I know who are married now in their 40s have all had orgasm-less sex life for decades, do most of the house work, and do not have a career. I have yet to see a happy marriage built on equality both mutually sexually satisfying.
Another responds to that reader:
It doesn’t mean men are benefitting from those marriages so much as maybe the wives made poor choices in their mates. Some people marry for money or status (or both), some because they want attention, etc. If intimate satisfaction is something these women sacrificed for the aforementioned reasons, then that’s on them.
One more reader has an aside:
I didn’t watch the video, but as a hypothetical, I am curious as to what the hyphenated last name would look like if the producers of this video, Kasia Cieplak-Mayr von Baldegg and Sam Price-Waldman, got married. And how many hours they think it would take their hypothetical children to fill in their last name in the bubble forms on standardized tests ...