—Dozens of women and girls living in camps for those displaced by the conflict with Boko Haram have faced rape and sexual exploitation by Nigerian officials. More here
—Thousands of people are using a Facebook “check in” feature to show solidarity to protestors opposed to a North Dakota pipeline, which they say threatens the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe’s sacred sites, as well as the tribe’s only water source. More here
—Iraqi forces entered Mosul for the first time since ISIS took the city in 2014. Capturing the city is expected to take months. More here
Audio of Police Exchanges With Orlando Shooter Released
The recordings of conversations between Omar Mateen, the man who killed 49 people in an Orlando gay nightclub in June, and police negotiators were released Monday.
While the transcripts of the conversations have been available for the last month, this is the first time the public can hear the recordings. The city of Orland released the recordings of Mateen and other 911 calls of the shooting after a court order from Margaret Schreiber, a judge in Florida’s Ninth Judicial Circuit.
In the 30 minutes of recordings, Mateen rants, sometimes with profanity, about U.S. airstrikes in Syria and Iraq. As USA Todaydescribes, “Mateen’s demeanor fluctuated from emotionless to frenzied and indignant,” hanging up with police negotiators several times and rejecting requests to resolve the situation peacefully. In one exchange, Mateen tells a negotiator:
You have to tell America to stop bombing Syria and Iraq. They are killing a lot of innocent people. What am I to do here when my people are getting killed over there. You get what I’m saying?
Later, he refers to Boston Marathon bomber Tamerlan Tsarnaev as his “homeboy,” and says, “now it’s my turn.”
Mateen, who in the recordings is heard demanding to be called an “Islamic Soldier,” was killed in a shootout with police at the Pulse nightclub. Dozens of others were injured.
Nigerian Officials Accused of Sexually Abusing Displaced Women and Girls
Dozens of women and girls living in camps for those displaced by the conflict with Boko Haram have faced rape and sexual exploitation by Nigerian officials, according to a report released Monday by Human Rights Watch.
The report documented 43 cases of sexual abuse since July in seven camps designated for internally displaced persons (IDP) throughout Maiduguri, the capital of the Borno state in northwest Nigeria. Of the documented cases, four of the women reported being drugged and raped by security forces or members of vigilante groups working with the Nigerian government. Thirty-seven women said they were coerced into sex with promises of marriage or money. And according to a July study by NOIPolls, a Nigerian research organization, a vast majority of these women lack proper access to food, clean water, and health care.
“It is bad enough that these women and girls are not getting much-needed support for the horrific trauma they suffered at the hands of Boko Haram,” Mausi Segun, the organization’s senior Nigeria researcher, said. “It is disgraceful and outrageous that people who should protect these women and girls are attacking and abusing them.”
Muhammadu Buhari, the Nigerian president, called the report’s findings “deeply worrying” and vowed to launch an immediate investigation.
We will protect the lives and wellbeing of these most vulnerable of Nigeria's citizens. And we will ensure they return safely to their homes
The women, ranging between the ages of 16 to 43, are among the more than 2.5 million people displaced as a result of the conflict between the Nigerian government and the Islamist militant group. The seven-year battle has resulted in the deaths of more than 10,000 civilians, as well as the kidnappings of thousands of others.
What Peter Thiel Said About the Gawker Case, Hulk Hogan, and 'Single-Digit Millionaires'
Peter Thiel, the billionaire investor who financed Hulk Hogan’s lethal lawsuit against Gawker, called the now-shuttered gossip-news website “a singularly sociopathic bully.”
Here are some of his remarks at an appearance Monday at the National Press Club in Washington, D.C.:
On why he financed Hulk Hogan’s case against Gawker: “If you’re a single-digit millionaire like Hulk Hogan, you have no effective access to our legal system. It costs too much.”
On Gawker: “Gawker was a pretty flimsy business. It was bad business. It didn’t make that much money. But they could have withstood all the lawsuits. They lost because of an enormous verdict that came in against them.”
On whether his actions set a dangerous precedent: “This is not about the First Amendment. It’s about the most egregious violation of of privacy imaginable, publishing a sex tape surreptitiously filmed in the privacy of someone’s bedroom and to hide behind the First Amendment, behind journalism. That is an insult to journalists. That’s why Gawker lost so catastrophically at the court in Tampa, Florida.”
On what the case was about: “I was very careful in the Hulk Hogan litigation, picking a lawsuit where the fight was over privacy. We did not even bring a libel action because that was sort of the way I wanted to make clear in the Hogan case that it was not about the media.”
On the internet’s “flash mobs”: “I’m generally in favor of the Internet. I generally think it’s been a good thing, but I think there are some parts of it where things have gone wrong: And one kind of phenomenon that’s very new that can take place on the internet is … we have these flash mobs that get directed at specific individuals. That’s a very new phenomenon and Gawker in some ways perfected it where you’d pick on people and destroy their lives.”
Thiel, Silicon Valley’s most public supporter of Donald Trump, also defended his backing of the GOP presidential nominee. You can read our coverage of his comments on Trump here.
Watch Thiel’s complete remarks here (the Gawker comments start at around the 35:00 mark):
For the First Time Since ISIS Captured Mosul, Iraqi Security Forces Have Entered the City
Iraqi troops entered Mosul on Monday, the first time since the battle for the Islamic State’s stronghold began more than two weeks ago.
Since October 17, troops have cleared the surrounding suburbs of insurgents and forced ISIS militants into a smaller territory in the city. On Monday a force commander told Reuterssoldiers had broken an ISIS defense line in an eastern suburb of Mosul, called the Karama district, which makes it the first time troops, backed by U.S. airstrikes, have entered the city since militants captured it in 2014.
The fight for Mosul was expected to be particularly intense. If ISIS loses, it would represent the militant group's most critical loss in Iraq. About 1.5 million people still live in Mosul, and minimizing the humanitarian cost of the battle has weighed heavily on the operation.
In its retreat, ISIS has lit oil fields on fire to create cover; used snipers, and detonated car bombs to take out advancing Iraqi security forces, as well as Kurdish Peshmerga fighters. There are also reports that ISIS insurgents have executed hundreds of civilians, even using them as human shields. The fighting has claimed on unknown amount of Iraqi and ISIS fighters, and at least one U.S. soldier. So far the battle has displaced more than 17,500 civilians—a figure that could top 1 million before fighting ends.
Why Are People Checking In at Standing Rock, North Dakota?
Facebook users may have noticed Monday that some of their friends, seemingly all at once, said they were at the Standing Rock Indian Reservation in Cannon Ball, North Dakota.
But they weren’t actually there.
Thousands of Facebook users used the website’s “check-in” feature to say they are at the Indian reservation where the Dakota Access Pipeline is set to be built—an area that has been the site of recent clashes between protesters who oppose the pipeline and police who say the protesters are standing on private land. Those checking in at the reservation followed the instructions of a viral Facebook message, which called on the pipeline’s opponents to check in on Facebook in order to “overwhelm and confuse” the Morton County Sheriff’s Department, which allegedly uses social media to track the protesters.
Here’s one variation of the post, which users are encouraged to copy and paste on their own timelines:
Though it is unclear if the claim that law enforcement uses social media to track protesters’ movements is true, the post has prompted thousands of users to check-in in solidarity—as of Monday, more than 4,500 people were checked-in at the Standing Rock Indian Reservation on Facebook. Last week, authorities arrested 141 protesters at the pipeline’s construction site, which opponents say threatens the Standing Rock Sioux Tribe’s sacred sites, as well as the tribe’s only water source.
The clowns started showing up months before Halloween this year.
In August, some residents of Green Bay, Wisconsin, called police after spotting someone in clown makeup carrying balloons and wandering around town. A few weeks later, residents of an apartment complex in South Carolina told police that people wearing clown makeup had waved to them in the street or beckoned their children into the woods. In the months since, clown sightings have been reported in more than 20 states, prompting panic among parents, concern from law enforcement, and goosebumps.
Now that Halloween has arrived, some parents are worried for the safety of young trick-or-treaters. Kimberly Kersey, a resident of Palm Bay, Florida, told CBS News she will be carrying a gun Monday night when she takes her sons out.
“I’ll be carrying for sure,” Kersey said. “I’m terrified of clowns already and if one messes with me or my kids it’ll be to the hospital or morgue they go.”
Palm Bay police urged people against dressing up as clowns. “The problem is that someone dressed like a clown could scare someone and there’s a possibility—a possibility—you could end up with someone getting shot,” Palm Bay Police Lieutenant Mike Bandish told CBS News.
Police departments in cities across the United States have issued similar warnings, citing the recent creepy clown sightings. A school district in New Jersey banned clown costumes on school grounds on Halloween. A Mississippi city council made it illegal for clowns to appear in public until the day after Halloween, imposing a $150 fine for violators. Earlier this month, Target removed some clown masks from its stores nationwide.
Raoul Wallenberg Is Declared Dead By Swedish Tax Agency
Raoul Wallenberg, the Swedish diplomat who saved thousands of Hungarian Jews during World War II and whose fate at the hands of the Soviet Union became an enduring Cold War mystery, has officially been declared dead by Sweden’s tax authority.
A spokeswoman for Skatteverket, the Swedish Tax Agency, confirmed that Wallenberg was declared dead on October 26. His date of death, the agency said, was July 31, 1952—five years after Soviet authorities said he died of a heart attack in a Russian prison. Under Swedish law, a person can be declared dead only five years after his or her disappearance. SVT Nyheter reported that Wallenberg’s trustees requested the declaration.
Wallenberg, a Swedish diplomat in Budapest, gave Hungary’s Jews Swedish travel papers or moved them to safe houses, almost certainly saving them from death. He was arrested by the Soviet Red Army in 1945, in the war’s final days. The Soviets denied until 1957 that Wallenberg was in their custody. That year, they said he died in prison July 17, 1947, of a heart attack.
In 2000, Russian officials acknowledged that Wallenberg was killed in Lubyanka prison upon the orders of Joseph Stalin, the Soviet leader. That year, Moscow also said Wallenberg was wrongfully persecuted and rehabilitated him as a victim of political repression.
Geert Wilders, the Far-Right Dutch Politician, Boycotts His Hate-Speech Trial
Geert Wilders, the far-right Dutch politician, has refused to attend his trial, which began Monday, on charges of racial discrimination and inciting hatred.
In 2014, Wilders, head of the Dutch Freedom Party (PVV),told supporters he would reduce the number of Moroccans, who make up 2 percent of the country’s population. Wilders denounced Monday’s trial as a “kangaroo court,” reaffirming his right “to speak about the problems in our country.”
NL has huge problem with Moroccans.
To be silent about it is cowardly.
43% of Dutch want fewer Moroccans.
Wilders’ criticized the charges against him as a “double standard,” noting similar remarks made byother Dutch politicians, including Dutch Prime Minster Mark Rutte, who said a group of Dutch-Turkish protesters should “go back to Turkey,” and Labour Party leader Diederik Samsom, who declared “Moroccans have an ethnic monopoly on street crime.”
Wilders’s anti-Moroccan rhetoric has not slowed since his indictment in March. He has campaigned on an anti-immigration platform, promising to close refugee centers, shutter mosques and Islamic schools, and institute a ban on the Quran. A September poll shows Wilders’s PVV to be losing popularity, dropping from 26 percent at the beginning of the year to between 16 and 19 percent—on par with the ruling People’s Party for Freedom and Democracy (VVD).
If convicted, Wilders faces up to two years in prison and a fine of up to 7,400 euros ($8,100).
Venezuela's President Meets With the Opposition in Vatican-Mediated Talks
Venezuelan President Nicolas Maduro, met on Sunday for the first timein two years with opposition leaders who want him removed from power. The Vatican convened the talks after violent nationwide protests.
Members of the Democratic Unity coalition met with Maduro at a Caracas Museum; on hand to mediate the talks was Archbishop Claudio Maria Celli, the papal envoy.
The situation in Venezuela is bleak. As my colleague Siddhartha Mahanta pointed out this weekend, global oil prices collapsed shortly after Hugo Chavez, Venezuela’s leader, died in 2013. It was a ruinous turn for Venezuela, because by 2014 the country relied on oil for 95 percent of its export earnings. This resulted in hyperinflation, an almost worthless currency, and shortages of basic goods. Maduro has taken much of the blame. He is highly unpopular—about 80 percent of Venezuelans would like to see him removed, and the opposition organized a recall referendum that looked like it would pass. Then last week, a court blocked the referendum process, leading to violent protests, which grew so bad Pope Francis asked Maduro and opposition leaders start a dialogue.
Both sides have dug in deeply, and it’s unclear what arrangement they’d be willing to come to. Maduro has called the recall vote part of an international coup to have him removed. The opposition has said the court’s rejection of their recall referendum is proof of Maduro’s meddling, and that he’s a dictator.
After Fireworks to Mark Festival of Lights, New Delhi Wakes to Smog
Hindus across India celebrated Diwali, the festival of lights, over the weekend. Fireworks are big feature of the holiday, and though they might have seemed like a good idea at the time, the smoke did not help the city Monday morning.
Here’s what it looked like:
India's Central Pollution Control Board said the levels of pollutants that can cause severe respiratory ailments were at 750 micrograms per cubic meters in the worst-affected parts of the capital—a number that is 30 times the level set by the World Health Organization. Indian officials said about 65-70 percent of that came from fireworks, which are set off on Diwali to make the triumph of good over evil. The U.S. Embassy in New Delhi said the levels of pollutants had exceeded what it regards as “hazardous.”
New Delhi, home to 16 million people, is already one of the world’s most polluted cities. The government’s attempts to reduce pollutions have had mixed results.
NASA's Asteroid-Spotting Software Predicted a Close Call
A massive asteroid flew past Earth late Sunday. It was first spotted last week, and because of Scout, NASA’s new asteroid-monitoring system, astronomers could carefully predict its size and flight path, part of a program to give the world more advanced warning in case an asteroid were headed directly for Earth.
A telescope in Hawaii first picked up the asteroid, named 2016 UR36, and the data was quickly loaded into NASA’s projection software. The program, which is still in testing, determined the asteroid was about 16 to 80 feet across (5 to 25 meters), and would fly within 310,000 miles of Earth. That’s a relatively safe distance—about 1.3 times the distance of the moon—but in terms of proximity in space, it’s pretty close. By predicting early on the flight path and size of Near Earth Objects, scientists hope to avoid a large-scale asteroid impact on the level that wiped out the dinosaurs.
NASA already has a flight-path prediction program called Sentry for asteroids at a size that could cause mass extinction. In the future, astronomers say they believe they can use these two programs to spot asteroids years, even decades off. Ed Lu, the CEO of an asteroid-threat organization called B612, told NPR that if scientists can predict an asteroid’s flight path 10, 20, or even 30 years before it strikes, “then you can divert such an asteroid by just giving it a tiny nudge when it's many billions of miles from hitting the Earth."
Lebanon Has a New President After More Than 2 Years
Michel Aoun, the Maronite Christian leader and former army chief, was elected Lebanon’s president Monday, ending more than two years of political deadlock in the country.
Aoun, 81, who is backed by Hezbollah, the Shia militia group that is a major political party in Lebanon, struck a deal earlier this month with the Future Movement, the Sunni-dominated party that was his biggest rival. Al-Jazeeraadds Aoun’s ascendancy is a victory for Iran and a blow to Saudi Arabia. He may have also been helped by the declining business fortunes of Saad Hariri, the former prime minister, who heads Future Movement.
Daily Star, the Lebanese newspaper, reported Aoun was elected Monday with a simple majority in the second round of voting. The BBCadds it was lawmakers’ 46th attempt to elect a president. Lebanon has not had a head of state since Michel Suleiman stepped down in May 2014 at the end of his single six-year term. In that time, the country of 4 million people has taken in more than 1 million refugees fleeing the civil war in neighboring Syria, the former power broker in Lebanon.
Aoun is perhaps previously best known for his role in Lebanon’s bloody 1975-1990 civil war. He led the Lebanese army against Syrian and rival Christian troops, but when his forces were defeated, Aoun fled to Paris. He returned to Lebanon in 2005, allied himself with political figures close to Damascus, as well as Hezbollah.
Under Lebanon’s power-sharing structure, the presidency is reserved for a Maronite Christian, the prime minister for a Sunni Muslim, and the speakership for a Shia Muslim.
Authorities arrested Monday the editor and several writers of Cumhuriyet, the oldest secular Turkish newspaper, for their alleged links to the Gulenist movementand the Kurdistan Workers Party (PKK), the latest such action following last July’s failed coup against President Recep Tayyip Erdogan.
Anadolu, the Turkish news agency, reported that police arrested Murat Sabuncu, the newspaper’s editor in chief, as well as 10 other staffers who work for the paper. They include: Hikmet Cetinkaya, the author of a book critical of Fethullah Gulen, who heads the Gulenist movement; Aydin Engin and Guray Oz, the columnists; Hakan Kara; Mustafa Kemal Gungor; Bulent Utku, the lawyer; Musa Kart, the cartoonist; Mustafa Kemal Gungor, Onder Celik, and Bulent Yener, members of the Cumhuriyet Foundation's managing board; and Turhan Gunay, who edits the daily books supplement. A warrant was also issued, Anadolu reported, for Akin Atalay, Cumhuriyet’s executive board chairman, and Can Dundar, the newspaper’s former editor in chief, who fled overseas earlier this year after he appealed a five-year prison sentence for revealing state secrets in the newspaper of Turkey’s operations in Syria.
Tens of thousands of people have been arrested or have lost their jobs since the July 15 coup attempt against Erdogan. Over the weekend, 15 media organizations were closed and 10,000 government officials fired for their alleged links to the coup plotters. Turkey’s government, which imposed a state of emergency after the failed coup, blames Gulen, a U.S.-based cleric, of masterminding the coup attempt and of creating a parallel state within the country. They also want the U.S. to extradite the cleric, who denies the charges against him.
Erdogan’s critics say he is using the coup attempt to silence the opposition to him and end dissent in Turkey.
Eric Holder Criticizes James Comey's Email Decision
Eric Holder, the former attorney general, has called FBI Director James Comey’s announcement Friday of possible new emails related to Hillary Clinton, the Democratic presidential nominee, a “stunning breach of protocol.”
Writing in the The Washington Post, Holder, who was President Obama’s attorney general from 2009 to 2015, said Comey’s “decision was incorrect. It violated long-standing Justice Department policies and tradition. And it ran counter to guidance that I put in place four years ago laying out the proper way to conduct investigations during an election season.”
Director Comey broke with these fundamental principles. I fear he has unintentionally and negatively affected public trust in both the Justice Department and the FBI. And he has allowed — again without improper motive — misinformation to be spread by partisans with less pure intentions.
Comey’s Friday-afternoon bombshell, just days before the presidential election, has come under scrutiny—celebrated by supporters of Donald Trump, the GOP presidential nominee, and excoriated by Democrats, including Clinton. Indeed, Harry Reid, the Democratic leader in the Senate, said that Comey, by his actions, may have violated the Hatch Act, which prohibits government officials from using their positions to influence elections.
Our Politics team will have more on this story, and we’ll provide a link to their reporting later in the day.
He understands men in America better than most people do. The rest of the country should start paying attention.
Every morning of my Joe Rogan experience began the same way Joe Rogan begins his: with the mushroom coffee.
It’s a pour-and-stir powder made from lion’s mane and chaga—“two rock-star mushrooms,” according to Joe—and it’s made by a company called Four Sigmatic, a regular advertiser on Joe Rogan’s wildly popular podcast. As a coffee lover, the mere existence of mushroom coffee offends me. (“I’ll have your most delicious thing, made from your least delicious things, please,” a friend said, scornfully.) But it tastes fine, and even better after another cup of actual coffee.
Next, I took several vitamin supplements from a company called Onnit, whose core philosophy is “total human optimization” and whose website sells all kinds of wicked-cool fitness gear—a Darth Vader kettlebell ($199.95); a 50-foot roll of two-and-a-half-inch-thick battle rope ($249.95); a 25-pound quad mace ($147.95), which according to one fitness-equipment site is a weapon dating back to 11th-century Persia. I stuck to the health products, though, because you know how it goes—you buy one quad mace and soon your apartment is filled with them. I stirred a packet of Onnit Gut Health powder into my mushroom coffee, then downed an enormous pair of Alpha Brain pills, filled with nootropics to help with “memory and focus.”
Meritocracy prizes achievement above all else, making everyone—even the rich—miserable. Maybe there’s a way out.
In the summer of 1987, I graduated from a public high school in Austin, Texas, and headed northeast to attend Yale. I then spent nearly 15 years studying at various universities—the London School of Economics, the University of Oxford, Harvard, and finally Yale Law School—picking up a string of degrees along the way. Today, I teach at Yale Law, where my students unnervingly resemble my younger self: They are, overwhelmingly, products of professional parents and high-class universities. I pass on to them the advantages that my own teachers bestowed on me. They, and I, owe our prosperity and our caste to meritocracy.
Two decades ago, when I started writing about economic inequality, meritocracy seemed more likely a cure than a cause. Meritocracy’s early advocates championed social mobility. In the 1960s, for instance, Yale President Kingman Brewster brought meritocratic admissions to the university with the express aim of breaking a hereditary elite. Alumni had long believed that their sons had a birthright to follow them to Yale; now prospective students would gain admission based on achievement rather than breeding. Meritocracy—for a time—replaced complacent insiders with talented and hardworking outsiders.
On his 73rd birthday, the former MVP of the Democratic Party has been sidelined—perhaps for good.
In the summer of 1996, as he prepared to turn 50—and win a second term in the White House—Bill Clinton took to musing aloud that he now had “more yesterdays than tomorrows.” If that sentiment seemed maudlin for a man still in the prime of life, it was rooted in fact: The men in Clinton’s family died young—his birth father at 28, his stepfather at 59.
Today, Clinton turns 73, having exceeded Psalm 90’s allotted three-score years and 10, and having survived impeachment, open-heart surgery, and more than enough personal and political scrapes to exhaust nine lives, much less one. Unless he lives to 150, the 42nd president really does have more yesterdays than tomorrows. But what should have been these golden years are turning out to be leaden.
The president is reshaping Americans' political views, just not the way he intended.
One of the most enduring descriptions of presidential power comes from Teddy Roosevelt, whose description of the office as a “bully pulpit” reflected his conclusion that its true worth was not its constitutional powers, but the ability to speak with and persuade voters. A century later, political scientists had largely debunked Roosevelt. It turns out, Ezra Klein wrote in The New Yorker in 2012, that presidents don’t actually possess much power to sway public opinion.
But maybe Roosevelt was right after all. Recent polling shows that Donald Trump has managed to reshape American attitudes to a remarkable extent on a trio of his key issues—race, immigration, and trade.
There’s just one catch: The public is turning against Trump’s views.
I want to respect her wishes, but I feel hurt and confused by her request.
My closest friend of many years is battling a very deadly diagnosis of Stage 4 breast cancer. She is single, childless, and not super close to her family.
She is generally a very private person, and I’ve always been the one who knows her best. About four months ago, I traveled out of the country; around the same time, she decided that she needed to disconnect from our friendship in order to stay focused on her own situation. There was no issue between us that caused this, and she’s confirmed that. She has told me that she just needs to deal with this stuff on her own and that it’s too difficult for her to talk about.
I suspect that she’s had more bad news, because that tends to cause her to retreat from others, and I worry that things are going downhill. I miss her deeply, and I’m also kind of angry with her. She has apologized to me for “it having to be this way,” but asks that I don’t contact her at all, and says that she’ll connect when she is ready. Although I know her so well, I can’t relate to this state of mind. I am so sad that we may not have much time left to spend together. I have respected her wishes, apart from a couple of texts to let her know I’m thinking of her. She has asked that I not even do that.
The writer Ben Howe grew up in the world of conservative evangelicalism. When he looks at the religious right now, all he sees is a thirst for power and domination.
Ben Howe is angry at evangelicals. As he describes it, he is angry that they didn’t just vote for Donald Trump in record numbers, but repeatedly provide moral cover for his outrageous failings. He is angry that leaders of the religious right, who long claimed to be the champions of American morality, appear to have gladly traded their values for power. He is angry that Christians claim they support the president because they want to end abortion or protect religious liberty, when supporting Trump suggests that what they really want is a champion who will mock and crush their perceived enemies.
To redeem themselves, Howe believes, evangelicals have to give up their take-no-prisoners culture war.
Is it a cruelty or a kindness to suggest friendship during a breakup?
A weird thing happened to Rebecca Griffith, a graduate student at the University of Kansas, when she began presenting her research findings on “post-dissolution friendships”—friendships between two people who have broken off a romantic relationship—at conferences a few years ago. It was unusual research, certainly; only a few studies had ever attempted to suss out what factors made a post-breakup friendship a success or a bust, and after her presentations, Griffith often took questions from other scientists and peers in her field. But the query she encountered most often was not about her conclusions, or her methodology, or her data analysis. It was, “Should I stay friends with my ex?”
The questions of whether and how to stay friends with an ex–romantic partner are, as Griffith can attest, both complex and universal. Scan through the portion of the internet that’s devoted to crowd-sourcing answers to hard questions, for example, and you’ll find endless iterations of this conundrum: On forum sites like Quora and Yahoo! Answers, as well as Reddit pages like r/relationships, r/teenagers, and r/AskReddit, both dumpers and dumpees seek advice on what it means to want to stay friends, whether to agree to stay friends, and whether to ask to stay friends.
Beards, scars, red clothes, and other secrets of attraction
Hot or not? The question of whom we’re attracted to and why has long confounded humankind’s greatest philosophers, scientists, and reality-show contestants.
Scads of studies suggest that those of us looking for Mr. or Ms. Right may actually be looking for Mr. Facial Symmetry or Ms. Ideal Waist-to-Hip Ratio (about 0.7 for women). [1, 2] But other research suggests that whether a trait is attractive depends on the type of connection you’re looking for. For example, women in one study found men with facial scars more appealing than other men for short-term relationships, but not for long-term ones.  In another study, men with beards had an edge among women seeking long-term relationships—a finding that might give clean-shaven guys with scars an idea about how to turn a one-night stand into something lasting. (If all of this sounds heteronormative, it is: Almost all research on attraction involves straight people.)
In the fall of 1997, after I graduated from college, I began experiencing what I called “electric shocks”—tiny stabbing sensations that flickered over my legs and arms every morning. They were so extreme that as I walked to work from my East Village basement apartment, I often had to stop on Ninth Street and rub my legs against a parking meter, or else my muscles would begin twitching and spasming. My doctor couldn’t figure out what was wrong—dry skin, he proposed—and eventually the shocks went away. A year later, they returned for a few months, only to go away again just when I couldn’t bear it anymore.
Over the years, the shocks and other strange symptoms—vertigo, fatigue, joint pain, memory problems, tremors—came and went. In 2002, I began waking up every night drenched in sweat, with hives covering my legs. A doctor I consulted thought, based on a test result, that I might have lupus, but I had few other markers of the autoimmune disease. In 2008, when I was 32, doctors identified arthritis in my hips and neck, for which I had surgery and physical therapy. I was also bizarrely exhausted. Nothing was really wrong, the doctors I visited told me; my tests looked fine.
Outnumbered by drunk and disorderly visitors, the Netherlands fights back.
The Dutch have suffered some brutal occupations, from the Roman empire and Viking raids to Spanish and Nazi rule. But now they face an even larger army of invaders: tourists.
In the era of cheap flights and Airbnb, their numbers are staggering. Some 19 million tourists visited the Netherlands last year, more people than live there. For a country half the size of South Carolina, with one of the world’s highest population densities, that’s a lot. And according to the Netherlands Board of Tourism & Conventions, the number of annual visitors is projected to increase by 50 percent over the next decade, to 29 million. Urban planners and city officials have a word for what the Netherlands and quite a few other European countries are experiencing: overtourism. With such an influx of humanity comes a decline in quality of life. Residents’ complaints range from inconvenience (crowds spilling from sidewalks to streets) to vandalism to alcohol-induced defilement (vomiting in flower boxes, urinating in mailboxes).