People often ask me, "Goldblog, are those letters in your Atlantic advice column for real?" And I say, "Please don't call me Goldblog. And yes, they're real, one hundred percent." Sometimes they're nuts, though. This one is from my October advice column:

I'm in high school and my father smokes a lot of pot. He does it privately (in our living room), but I just found out that he buys his pot from one of my friends. My friend is in college, and he told everyone that he's my father's dealer. Should I tell my father to stop smoking pot, or to just stop buying from my friends?

J. P., San Francisco, Calif.

Dear J. P.,

What your father is doing is terribly selfish. It sounds as if you have more sense than he has. You must lay down the law: absolutely no buying illegal drugs from your friends. You are being raised in a catastrophically lenient household (has your father never heard the tragic story of Robert Downey Jr.?), and you're going to have to be unequivocal. And by the way, how did he convince you that the living room is "private"?

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