While I don't really believe I am as smart as some people think, I know that there are purely biological effects of intelligence that make life difficult.
One that springs to mind for some reason is a tendency towards depression and insomnia.
The book recounts what a wonderful refuge theatre provided you and other LBGT kids around you. When people ask me how they can support LBGT youth in
our town, I often tell them that they should support the local children's theater group. Yes? And why theater?
Unfortunately, you're right. I say "unfortunately" because this is just going to get the damn contra-gender people crawling all over this again, saying,
"Nyeh nyeh, there's no connection between sexuality and behavior..." Yeah, thanks, I get that, but there obviously is a connection, because about 40
percent of the theater boys I know are gay. So, leave. As to why, I'm not a sociologist or a biologist so I probably couldn't tell you. It might
have something to do with societal expectations and formative pressure, or whatever biological quirk causes variant sexuality in the first place.
Your father talks in the book about how one of the "gay uncles" (i.e., gay friends) counseling him insisted on the importance of letting you come out
at your own pace. I generally agree that it's important to let people come out at their own pace, but say there is a middle school child whom I am
pretty sure is gay who doesn't have parents like yours -- say I know of a child whose parents would not be at all comfortable with the idea that their
son is gay. Is there anything a straight ally neighbor can or should do for such a kid in the neighborhood?
I've found that a lot of parents, especially middle-class ones, will be forced by circumstance to react better than you might think; after all, it's their child on the line now, not some hypothetical queer. However, I've also known a lot of kids who seemed perfectly happy with being only
partially out, whether it was only to their closest friends, or being sexually ambiguous, or just being out to everyone except their parents. If they don't
admit it yet, of course, don't push them to come out unless it looks like they're really suffering.
Although your father makes very explicit that he asked your consent before he produced this book, a couple of people commenting on the book have
implied that you could not really consent to this book because you are too young, or too naive, or too dependent on your parents to say no. Thoughts?
I'm 17 years old. Anybody who calls me a naïve child is going to get a swift kick in the pants. I'm not naïve, I'm not young enough to be incapable of
making relatively minor life decisions, and I'm sure as hell not too dependent on my parents to say "no" if I wanted to. If I had wanted to say "no," I
would have said it. Also, obviously, my dad wouldn't even want to write the book if I was uncomfortable with it, yada yada journalistic integrity