Since the COVID-19 lockdown began, I have done only one tele-health appointment with my therapist of six years. The world has changed for us, and I feel deeply that I should not create more of a burden for my therapist while he is going through the exact same thing.
I’ve seen several TV interviews with therapists talking about how bogged down they are with their patients in crisis now. I just don’t want to do that to him. I think that giving him the gift of time may be what he needs right now.
He always talks to me about “the right of self-protection” and how I don’t have to “take care of him.” Still, most people may want to gravitate toward their therapists even more at this time of crisis, and I want to take the pressure off of him and give him some space to deal with his own feelings. He’s only human.
I’m wondering if my feelings are common.
New Baltimore, Mich.
Many people who go to therapy wonder, at some point in the process, what their therapist thinks of them. Some people wonder if their therapist finds them boring or annoying. Some wonder if their therapist believes that their problems are trivial or that their experiences are “abnormal.” Others are concerned with whether their therapist truly likes or cares about them. And still others worry that they’re “too much”—that their needs (for kindness, understanding, guidance, attention, or a phone call between sessions during a particularly challenging week) are a burden on their therapist.