When David McGuiggan told his mother that he and his fiancée would be requesting cash gifts for their wedding last October, she was less than enthusiastic, he remembers. He got the impression that she found the practice uncouth and a little desperate. “For her generation, it was greedy, like you’re begging for money,” McGuiggan says. “Back then, you were gracious to receive three different irons, which really happened to my parents.”
“We don’t need three irons,” adds Meily Mendez, his now-wife. “We already have two.”
The couple had lived together for six years before getting hitched, and had already acquired all the irons, dinnerware, and bathroom towels they’d ever need. So instead of a traditional wedding registry—a wish list commonly composed of home items the couple deems necessary for starting their life together—McGuiggan and Mendez opted to just ask for money they could put toward hotels on their honeymoon and use to offset some wedding costs.
The pair collected money through Honeyfund, an online wedding registry that lets guests electronically contribute money to projects, excursions, and expenses as decided by the betrothed. Couples raise money for milestones such as fertility treatments, home down payments, and honeymoons—but even more trivial items such as Amazon gift cards and gas for road trips. (Couples also can request money for no specific goal.) The result is a swirl of online retail registry common at stores such as Williams-Sonoma and Macy’s with a digital fund exchange such as PayPal or Venmo.