Though the characters and plot details vary, romantic comedies all tend to promise the same thing: a happy ending. But to Jimmy and Gretchen, the central couple in the rom-com series You’re the Worst, a happy ending might as well be a nightmare. In the show’s second season premiere, which aired on FXX Wednesday, the pair take their courtship to the next level by moving in together. It’s a typical landmark in a serious relationship, but Jimmy and Gretchen are instead horrified by the maturity this represents. They immediately dive into every misadventure they can think of, accepting pills from strangers in bars, waking up together covered in garbage—anything but admit they just want to spend a quiet night in. Which is part of what sets You’re the Worst apart from many other romantic comedies: It plays with the existential horror couples might feel when faced with the prospect of a boring, grown-up life.
But what makes the show special is that it looks at this anxiety surrounding commitment and romantic love from both sides—not just from Jimmy’s perspective, or Gretchen’s. When Judd Apatow’s The 40-Year-Old Virgin came out 10 years ago, it spawned a wave of romantic comedies about man-children struggling to define adulthood in the 21st century. This year, Apatow’s Trainwreck tried to do the same from a female perspective, telling the tale of a proudly promiscuous, hard-partying 30-something played by Amy Schumer who meets a sweetheart sports doctor played by Bill Hader. Rom-coms like these often end up feeling faintly like a lecture, with one character having a come-to-Jesus moment over the necessity of growing up. The brilliance of You’re the Worst, then, is that it follows two uninhibited souls grappling with the realization that they might prefer monogamy—without declaring one more enlightened than the other.