But in fact, Perry's Single Moms Club offers a more compassionate, informed portrait of single mothers than most films: While many mainstream portrayals show single mothers progressing toward independent empowerment or trying to “make it on their own,” The Single Moms Club suggests single mothers could create a “sisterhood,” rather than simply accepting self-sufficiency as the only option for “good” single moms. Perry points to the possibility of single mothers co-parenting, which can facilitate (and normalize) care across nuclear-family lines. His film nods to alternative parenting communities, groups that are often hidden (such as the black lesbian mothers in Mignon Moore’s Invisible Families). These communities are not just mothers forced into dependency, but women outside the mainstream who are creating alternative ways of mothering with (as Andrea O’Reilly says of “mother outlaws”) agency, authority, and authenticity.
For scholars as well as filmmakers, single-mother identity has been notoriously difficult to discuss. “There is no typical single mom,” Jane Juffer writes in Single Mother: The Emergence of the Domestic Intellectual. “Yet at the same time, single mothers in the United States at the turn of the century all live with the imperative to demonstrate self-sufficiency.” In other words, Juffer argues that while single moms may share nothing else, they all partake in the social obligation to prove themselves totally self-reliant. The five women of the titular “single moms club,” however, turn to one another to address this imperative.
Each of the five women in this film are introduced in a situation of powerlessness: We witness Hillary (Amy Smart) in divorce proceedings where her soon-to-be-ex-husband is a powerful lawyer taking advantage of her. We see successful book editor Jan (Wendi McLendon-Covey) sitting in a boardroom with wrinkled white men preparing to deny her partnership after 17 years of service. We watch journalist and author May (Nia Long) as Jan rejects her manuscript for being “too black.” We see Esperanza (Zulay Henao) panic about an unexpected visit from her ex-husband (Eddie Cibrian) who undermines her parenting and threatens to take away child support. Finally, we meet Lytia (Cocoa Brown) the stubbornly single, outspoken black diner waitress with five children—including two grown sons in prison.
But, crucially, their powerlessness isn’t magically cured by gumption or pluck. They don’t become single-mom superheroes or assume lethal power as Uma Thurman does in Kill Bill and Geena Davis does in The Long Kiss Good Night. Rather, these mothers improve their situations through collaboration. In the most important scene of the movie, all five single mothers end up in one car, looking for May’s missing son. Perry (who has been continually suggesting these women are in the same boat) shows them openly bickering. Jan and Lytia become critical of each other, using each other’s children as ammunition: Jan suggests Lytia is too hard on her son—that when he comes to her house all he does is homework, and that a little basketball wouldn’t kill him. Lytia fires back that Jan’s daughter has confided she feels “unloved” by her mother. This exchange may seem catty, but it is shown to drive both Jan and Lytia toward becoming better parents. Lytia takes her son outside to play basketball one-on-one; Jan makes progress in communicating her affection to her daughter, apologizing and taking her out for tacos and cupcakes, prompting her daughter to respond: “I love you too, Mom.”