The leak of the DADT report notes how gay servicemembers are utterly uninterested in making grand statements, probably won't come out in any substantive fashion and so not want to be treated differently than anyone else:
The report also concludes that gay troops should not be put into a special class for equal-opportunity or discrimination purposes, the individual said. The recommendation is based on feedback the study group obtained from gay troops and same-sex partners who said they do not want a special classification, according to the source. Gay troops were encouraged to participate in the survey and to submit comments to the anonymous online drop box.
Just allow them to serve their country without the constant threat of blackmail, persecution or being treated as political football. That's all they want; it's the least we owe them for their service.