Jonathan Hopkins, a former Army captain, explains the reality of DADT:

A colleague of mine relayed a story of a soldier whose boyfriend was killed by a roadside blast while both were deployed. The only person the grieving soldier could safely talk to was an Australian officer he didn’t even know. His most trusted teammates members of his unit were not allowed to be there for him when he needed them most.

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