A reader writes:
Your excuse for not making a video for the Savage project falls short. You claim you were both desperate and suicidal as a teen, but not because of your gayness. Are you implying that all gay teens who commit suicide do so because they are bullied due to their gayness? Surely some do it because of the very normal teenage desperation you felt. Aren’t they also worth reaching out to?
"My only issues really emerged after I came out and felt the gay community had few places for someone like me - and had dumb arguments and left-wing agitprop instead of the powerful case we could have been making for our equality."
In a way, I think this is why you're so perfectly suited to making a video. Who else can speak so eloquently to the kid who is gay and a Christian, gay and a conservative? Who else can say to that kid "there's a place for you too"?
Think of the kids who know they're gay, but look at the public image of the "gay community" and don't see themselves reflected. In the absence of other information, those are the kids that will quietly close the closet door and only open it again in secrecy and fear. Just a thought.
It's not about "faking a misery." It's about showing those who are suffering that it's not their fault. It's about showing them there's nothing wrong with them. It's about giving them someone to look up to. Whether you realize it or not, you (and your relationship) are something to look forward to. Someone going through that pain may be seriously helped knowing there's something better, and there are places in this world where this misery that has been forced upon them does not exist. Be honest about the fact that you didn't go through the bullying and you'll still be respected. But you are very very talented at describing what the world could be for gays, and that's what they need. They need some sort of light to guide them through the darkness they are in now.
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