The Evolutionary Case Against Monogamy, Ctd

Dan Savage joins the debate over Sex At Dawn:

I'm not saying that everyone everywhere has to be non-monogamous; the authors of Sex At Dawn don't make that argument either. (Lots of monogamists, however, run around insisting that everyone everywhere should be monogamousand the monogamists get a pass because, hey, they mean so well and wouldn't it be nice if everyone were?)

The point is that peopleparticularly those who value monogamyneed to understand why being monogamous is so much harder than they've been lead to believe it will be. In some cases this understanding may help people find the courage to seek out non-monogamous relationships and/or arrangements and/or allowances that make themgasp!happier and make their relationships more stable, not less, as a routine infidelity won't doom their marriage/domesticpartnership/commitment/slavecontract/whatever. But understanding that monogamy is a struggle for most people, and being able to be honest with our partners about it, may actually help some people remain monogamous.