by Chris Bodenner

Dan Savage insists that personal accounts like this one (from a Dish reader) distort the debate:

[A]s you read the sad stories about failed open relationships that are being offered in (over)reaction to Sex at Dawnthe authors don't actually advocate open relationshipsplease bear in mind that the voices of happy, content, and successful non-monogamous couples are almost entirely absent from this debate. ... While the successfully non-monogamous keep their mouths screwed shutthe tribute a presumed vice is bullied into paying an overblown virtuesurvivors of failed non-monogamous relationships 1. never shut up and 2. see their stories highlighted by moralizers as proof that non-monogamous relationships never work out.

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