A reader writes:

Since when do any of us "send our sons" to America's wars? I don't think any parent of a soldier or Marine ever uses the phrase, or even once thinks in the terms of "I sent my son (daughter) to war."  (In a way, we all "send" them.)  Please stop using this thoughtless phrase today!

My son, by the way, is at an FOB (that's Forward Operating Base for you civvies) in Afghanistan. I did not send him, any more than the other thousands of soldiers and Marines in harm's way had their parents send them. He volunteered just like all the rest, on his own volition. And the honor of that choice is all his - not to be worn on my chest like a medal to be ogled.

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