Oliver Burkeman makes a distinction:
We are raised, the theory runs, in one of two cultures. In Ask culture, people grow up believing they can ask for anything a favour, a pay rise fully realising the answer may be no. In Guess culture, by contrast, you avoid "putting a request into words unless you're pretty sure the answer will be yes… A key skill is putting out delicate feelers. If you do this with enough subtlety, you won't have to make the request directly; you'll get an offer. Even then, the offer may be genuine or pro forma; it takes yet more skill and delicacy to discern whether you should accept."
Neither's "wrong", but when an Asker meets a Guesser, unpleasantness results.
Chait takes issue with that last line.