A reader writes:

Cindy Gallop seems to frame this as a recent phenomenon among straight people as access to sex education has declined. I've actually noticed the opposite among gay men. Gays in their thirties and older tend to want to have sex exactly the way it's done in hardcore gay porn, while gays in their twenties - who have come of age in a world where gay love isn't nearly as invisible as it once was - are much more interested in kissing, cuddling, body contact, and all the activities that Gallop notes have declined in the young men she's dated.  It's one unscientific personal sample against another, but I thought it was interesting since it's been the exact antithesis of my own experience.

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