Drum thinks I am being touchy:

"Well meaning liberals" have almost unanimously been fighting in favor of gay marriage for years. We aren't balking at anything. But in the meantime, surely incremental change is better than nothing? Seriously: Does Andrew really think that those of us who support progress short of complete victory are merely interested in "perpetuating the victimology that sustains the Democrats and their interest groups"? For God's sake.

No. That's why I included the phrase "well-meaning." I want full civil equality, robust gay self-government, minimal government interference and integration of gay people in society. What I'm against is gay people being pitied into being wards of the state and recipients of compassion and pity. I don't want anyone's compassion or pity. I want equality.

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