People who talk about themselves a lot are generally disliked. A likable person will instead subtly direct conversation to where others request the information they want to reveal. Revealing good news about yourself is a good sign, but wanting to reveal good news about yourself is a bad sign. Best to do it without wanting to.
This appears true of most human interaction, but apparently not of that on Facebook.
Joanne McNeil bashes the website:
Facebook epitomizes filter failure for me. Yes, there are ways to segment information and keep groups, but there aren’t very good ways to keep worlds from overlapping. Facebook isn’t a more neutral LinkedIn and Myspace. It is the collapse of LinkedIn, Myspace, and a bunch of other networks, while many people want these worlds compartmentalized. I mostly avoid Facebook the same way that I’ll get drinks on a Monday night with colleagues, but not on a Friday or Saturday night.
One of Fallows' readers gives the site a second look:
I'm more selective [with Facebook friends] now, and am comfortable with it as a gratifying reminder of my own history. It now includes people I was (and am) very fond of, but whom it wouldn't make any sense for me to be emailing - we've reasserted our goodwill towards each other; I am glad to know tidbits of their present lives, some of which I pursue independently, and to occasionally hail each other over some entry. It's a cushion against loneliness, and against investing too much in some particular, immediate relationship. It makes me feel part of a carefully crafted whole, sustainable since its give-and-take is very lightweight. Its usefulness is just different from other approaches to socializing, in an unexpected but pleasant way - like an interactive, ever-updated scrapbook.
Bonus Facebook chart porn here.
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