It's this one:

DOMA does not discriminate against homosexuals in the provision of federal benefits. To the contrary, discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation is prohibited in federal employment and in a wide array of federal benefits programs by law, regulation, and Executive order.... Section 3 of DOMA does not distinguish among persons of different sexual orientations, but rather it limits federal benefits to those who have entered into the traditional form of marriage.

This only makes sense if you hold the view that gays are not being discriminated against because they can choose to marry someone of the opposite gender. This is the kind of argument I've had to counter for twenty years from the hardcore Christianist right, who emphatically reject the notion of homosexual dignity and homosexual relationships. To hear it come back to us in the mouth of the Obama administration - even in a pro forma case - is brutalizing. And it is all the more brutalizing sine Obama has said nothing and done nothing to support our civil marriages across the nation, since he took office.

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