"Where do you stand? Honoring love as precious and true wherever you find it, or with those who would demean or deny it? I urge you: Stand where you can be proud. Stand with service and truth. Stand with love. Stand for liberty and justice for all," - John Berry, Obama's head of the Office of Personnel Management, last Wednesday.

"DOMA does not discriminate against homosexuals in the provision of federal benefits .... Section 3 of DOMA does not distinguish among persons of different sexual orientations, but rather it limits federal benefits to those who have entered into the traditional form of marriage," - the Obama administration's brief, urging gay people to marry someone of the opposite sex if they want to exercize their civil rights.

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