That's the line we occasionally get from those opposed to civil equality for gay couples. And then we get the truth from Gary Bauer:

If Mr. Obama extended benefits to same-sex partners of federal workers, he would “provoke a furious grass-roots reaction, reinvigorate the conservative coalition and undermine his efforts to portray himself as a moderate on social issues.”

So the moderate position on gay couples is no rights at all? If you want to know why Bauer has lost every real battle in this fight, those ugly, callous words will give you a clue.

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