Email Of The Day

A reader writes:

I know you are very busy and will likely not read this message.  But as a loyal blog reader I felt I could express some of my thoughts to you. My partner and I (we've been a family for about 20 years) finally married last June.  We live in LA and come from loving and accepting families.  The approval of Proposition 8 is a terrible blow to us.  For the first time in so many years I feel pushed back into the psychosis and depression of the closet.

I am your age and have lived through many happy as well as very sad and dark times.  We are now plunged into another bad time.  I am fatigued from the battles.  I am disgusted that our fellow Californians can do this to my family and friends.

I beg my gay brothers and sisters: do not let them drive you back to the "psychosis and depression" of the closet. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Know that your love is real; cherish it; hold your spouses closer; build your families; take care of your kids; live your dream.

What the Christianists want is to destroy your self-esteem and self-worth. It's over the wounded souls of gay people that they construct their politics of fear and division. But we endured centuries of cruelty, and after our first taste of liberation, we faced a plague of devastating proportions. But we came back stronger than ever. For the sake of those who never dreamed we would ever see civil unions, for those who died of the plague, for those whose marriages through the ages were never recognized but were as real as any backed by law: fight on. Do not lose faith.  Law never trumps love. And one day it will echo it.