Ross makes the argument in the current Atlantic. I still disagree with the thrust of it:

Calling porn a form of adultery isn’t about pretending that we can make it disappear. The temptation will always be there, and of course people will give in to it. I’ve looked at porn; if you’re male and breathing, chances are so have you. Rather, it’s about what sort of people we aspire to be: how we define our ideals, how we draw the lines in our relationships, and how we feel about ourselves if we cross them. And it’s about providing a way for everyone involved, men and women alikewhether they’re using porn or merely tolerating itto think about what, precisely, they’re involving themselves in, and whether they should reconsider.

We sparred over the issue ealier this year. So did my readers.

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