Cheating Themselves

by Chris Bodenner
Coates muses on the fun of fatherhood:

I'm consistently amazed at the coolness of building family. The first two years are drudgery, no doubt. But then it just becomes awesome. ... My Dad once told me something that has stuck with me for years. The saddest thing about so many black fathers--and fathers in general--quitting on their kids is that, invariably, they cheat themselves more than they actually cheat the kid. I've seen a lot of folks turn out fine without knowing their second parent. But the absent parent, permanently loses that link, that ability to share the things that once excited them, that chance to relive their own childhood with their flesh and blood. That goes for D&D and for Devin Hester.