In reality, that is:

Jeff Barr and William Wes Wilkinson, two cowboys from Elverta, were the first male couple married in Woodland on Monday. "We met at a Gay Rodeo Association barn dance eight years ago," said Wilkinson, 43. "We're both officers of the association. … I proposed to him and he immediately proposed to me, and we accepted at the same time while we were driving down the road in our truck."

The couple have 5 acres with three horses, three calves, nine chickens and two dogs. "That seems to be our family," Wilkinson said. But Barr's parents, Walter and Louise Barr of Moraga, were present to witness the ceremony. "We have to do that," Walter Barr said of supporting their son ...

That last moving sentiment is proof that in reality, rather than in the abstract, support for gay marriage is a deeply, deeply pro-family position.

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