If you discover, as Mrs Haggard seems to have, that you have married a gay man or a lesbian woman and don't know where to turn, the Straight Spouse Network does good work, trying to heal the wound of the closet. Until we achieve full gay equality and acceptance, families will continue to suffer terribly from the closet and those who defend and uphold it. But there is help out there. You're not alone.

We want to hear what you think about this article. Submit a letter to the editor or write to letters@theatlantic.com.