If you're still confused by ghosting, the term given to potential suitors who stop calling or texting after one or a couple of dates, let's be clear: it's not them, it's you. "For Millennials, 'and then I never heard from him again,' is one of the most common endings to great date stories. And we all deserve a happier, non-Sopranos-style ending," Sara Ashley O'Brien writes, explaining the trend of ghosting, for The Date Report.
Ghosting specifically refers to when someone you went on a date or three with, for whatever reason, stops responding to text messages. Instead of spelling out that they would not like to see you, you just keep sending your messages into the ether— a frustrating experience. "I blankly stared at my phone, awaiting his response, until eventually I blinked and realized what had happened: I had been ghosted," O'Brien wrote.
O'Brien isn't the first person to be haunted. This phenomenon isn't anything new. Back in the days before text messaging ghosts took different forms and stopped answering their e-mails, pages, phone calls, and doors. XOJane, purveyor of those wondrous "It Happened to Me" stories, wrote about ghosting back in September when it was known as the slow fade. "You can’t quite figure out what happened because… nothing happened. It’s almost like your paramour ceased to exist," Victoria Carter, crusader against the slow fade of ghosts, wrote.