I have, at this moment, 155 outstanding friend requests. It's not you, it's me. I use facebook to conduct my private life, and so I restrict membership to those who are nominally a part of it. If I haven't met you, I won't friend you, not because I don't love you, but because thanks to three different schools I already have 200 facebook friends and I can't keep track of any more.

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