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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I’m Worried the College-Admissions Process Is Rigged Against My Son
He has grades and test scores that I think should qualify him for the Ivy League—but he’s also white and upper-middle-class.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: My Daughter Hasn’t Wanted a Relationship With Me for 25 Years
I want to reestablish our connection, but she won’t even acknowledge me at family events.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I Looked Through My Daughter’s Phone, and I Didn’t Like What I Saw
I thought something was off about one of her new friends—and my suspicions were right.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I’m Dating a Divorced Man With Kids, and It’s Harder Than I Thought
His ex-wife is constantly texting and calling him about problems with their kids, and I can’t help but feel annoyed.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: Why Won’t My Boyfriend Propose to Me?
We’ve been dating for a while and have talked about marriage, but I’m worried that he’s still scared of commitment.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: My Sister Is a Mess and I Don’t Know How to Help Her
My younger sister is constantly anxious whenever she comes to visit, and I want to help without completely draining myself.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: My Co-workers Think I’m Rude, and I’m Not Sure How to Change
My supervisor isn’t allowed to give me more details for the sake of anonymity, and I don’t know how to change without changing my entire personality.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: My Mother-In-Law Didn’t Mean to Ruin My Wedding, but I’m Still Angry With Her
After a weekend of not speaking to me, she collapsed and cut my wedding night short, and I don’t know how to deal with the resentment I still feel.
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BIANCA BAGNARELLI Dear Therapist: My Boyfriend’s Wealthy Family Isn’t Fair with Their Money
His parents give a lot of financial support to his twin brother and sister-in-law, and I wish they’d do the same for us.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I’m Not Sure Why My Sister Stopped Giving Gifts to My Children, and I’m Afraid to Ask
I don’t really care about the presents themselves—I just want to know what prompted the change.
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Bianca Bagnarelli / The Atlantic Dear Therapist: I Don’t Know How to Set Boundaries With My Parents
They say they’re trying to protect me and my brothers during the divorce process, but they’re dragging us into their problems.
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Bianca Bagnarelli / The Atlantic Dear Therapist: I Don’t Know How to Deal With My Workplace Jealousy
My co-workers got a big promotion that I didn’t get, and I can’t bring myself to be happy for them.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I Can’t Let Go of How Badly My Family Treated Me When My Mom Was Sick
I want to confront my aunts, but the time is never right.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: My Boyfriend Loves Me, but He’s Not Affectionate Enough
I’m tired of feeling like I’m putting more effort into our relationship than he is.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: Life in a Multigenerational Household Is Terrible
My mom nags me all the time, and my grandpa’s health is declining. What can I do to be happier?
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I Don’t Talk to My Dad Anymore, but I’m Afraid to Tell My Family Why
Would it make things better or worse to tell them how he abused me, more than 10 years later?
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: Is It Possible to Apologize for a Sexual Assault?
Multiple men have asked that question to our advice columnist. Here is her response.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I Don’t Want My Nightmare Brother at Thanksgiving
On one hand, we don’t get along. On the other, he lives 10 minutes away.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: I Was an Accomplice to an Affair
And I worry that if my now-boyfriend cheated with me, he might cheat on me.
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Bianca Bagnarelli Dear Therapist: My Granddaughter Has Autism and Her Cousins Exclude Her
I feel a need to help them understand she's wired differently. Should I intervene?
