“Something that totally changes your life like that, even if it’s overwhelmingly good, it still is overwhelming.”
“As a queer woman in the military, seeing both Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell and the combat-exclusion policy repealed [during my career] was momentous.”
“My kids know they’re a product of me and their dad, but that Debbie was our oven … They love her even more knowing the sacrifice she made.”
“A lot of people told me, ‘Don’t do it.’ I said, ‘But I love books and reading.’”
“I used to joke and say, ‘If I died in my apartment, I knew that Barbara was the person who would find me.’”
“With friendship, there is this expectation that it’s supposed to be easy, which … is not an honest assessment of what any long-term, intimate bond looks like.”
As states and cities waffle on pandemic restrictions, public health has become individuals’ responsibility.
“If you cross an ocean, you’re constantly together, and you just become a family.”
“When they were babies, we raised them together. We were always at each other’s houses, and the girls were always together.”
“I think it’s important that you remember who your friend is, that they are not just a set of political policies.”
“It was an all-day game. I was thinking about it almost an obsessive amount.”
“There’s nothing nicer than opening the mailbox and seeing something friendly, something that’s not a bill.”
“We don’t have this superficial friendship where I’m only best friends with you when things are funny and happy … I’m also here for all the transitions and all the rough patches.”
“It’s a distraction from all that’s going on … This is a way to come together, in a different way—teaching instead of just talking.”
“At first, I was indiscriminately adding other Paul O’Sullivans on Facebook. It was like a joke. Then I realized, ‘Hey, wait a minute, we’re all musicians.’”
“I’ll complain to her about how I couldn’t find a parking spot at the Nordstrom sale, while she’s complaining to me about how her goats have hoof rot.”
The Jolenes and Daeneryses of the world have some baggage to contend with.
“I was always in a fishbowl. I felt like I was not just Alex, but Alex the RA.”
“Maybe there should’ve been some animosity, but we’re both naturally not drawn to unnecessary conflict.”
Our reporters reflect on the words and ideas that resonated with them in 2019.