How the Internet Has Become an Outlet for Lonely Teens—and Barack Obama

More than a stunt, the president's upcoming Google+ Hangout might be a real and rare chance for him to interact with citizens.


The Obama White House announced Monday that, in conjunction with tonight's State of the Union address, it's going to be holding what the kids are calling a "hangout' over on what the kids are calling "Google+." If you're unfamiliar, a Google+ Hangout integrates live-streaming video in an effort to mimic the sort of casual interaction "hanging out" implies offline. The White House event is scheduled for next Monday afternoon at 5:30 p.m. EST. Details are still being worked out, the White House says, but President Obama is slated to respond to questions submitted and voted on by the public, with curation by Google (a subject for another post). Some of those folks offering questions can "even be invited to join the President in the Hangout and take part in the live conversation."

On one level, the Google+ move is a piece of the White House's strategy of using digital tools to extend the message of their annual State of the Union. But it's worth a another look in light of The Obamas, Jodi Kantor's book on life as the president of the United States.

A (if not the) driving theme in Kantor's deeply reported book is just how isolating life in the White House has turned out to be for Obama. He's said to feel trapped in a Washington of misplaced priorities, despairing at how muddled the outside world's understanding was of his presidency. "Only five years before he became president," Kantor writes, "Obama was advertising his email address ( in the Hyde Park Herald, and during the presidential campaign, he had kept in touch via Blackberry with hundreds, maybe thousands of people -- former law professors, basketball buddies, donors, and relatives. Now the network he had spent his life building was no longer accessible by email; because of legal and security concerns, he could only correspond with his top advisors and a few friends." In addition, meetings were stiff, scripted affairs. Obama mines aides for new news, and asks for 10 letters everyday from the scores sent by the public to the White House.

"Compared with real, everyday contact with the outside world," writes Kantor, "ten letters seemed like nothing. But in the White House, it was something, and the president referenced them constantly."

Isolated? Misunderstood? Overwhelmed by the sense that someplace, anyplace, is better than here? Sound familiar? Actually, it sounds an awful lot like the teens and tweens discussed in this New York Times piece from over the weekend about the work of Dr. danah boyd, a digital researcher at who studies the online practices of young people (and who does not capitalize her name):

"Children's ability to roam has basically been destroyed," Dr. Boyd said in her office at Microsoft, where a view of the Boston skyline is echoed in the towers of books on her shelves, desk and floor. "Letting your child out to bike around the neighborhood is seen as terrifying now, even though by all measures, life is safer for kids today."

Children naturally congregate on social media sites for the relatively unsupervised conversations, flirtations, immature humor, and social exchanges that are the normal stuff of teenage hanging-out, she said.

[B]oyd goes on to argue that rather than worrying so much about kids and teens being preyed upon by online predators, we should recognize that the Internet might be a way for kids abused in offline life -- where serious abuse is more likely to occur -- to connect with adults in a safe and easy space.

Presented by

Nancy Scola is a writer based in New York. She has written for New York, Salon, and Seed, and is a frequent contributor to The American Prospect.

How to Cook Spaghetti Squash (and Why)

Cooking for yourself is one of the surest ways to eat well. Bestselling author Mark Bittman teaches James Hamblin the recipe that everyone is Googling.

Join the Discussion

After you comment, click Post. If you’re not already logged in you will be asked to log in or register.

blog comments powered by Disqus


Before Tinder, a Tree

Looking for your soulmate? Write a letter to the "Bridegroom's Oak" in Germany.


The Health Benefits of Going Outside

People spend too much time indoors. One solution: ecotherapy.


Where High Tech Meets the 1950s

Why did Green Bank, West Virginia, ban wireless signals? For science.


Yes, Quidditch Is Real

How J.K. Rowling's magical sport spread from Hogwarts to college campuses


Would You Live in a Treehouse?

A treehouse can be an ideal office space, vacation rental, and way of reconnecting with your youth.

More in Politics

Just In