Regarding your discussion about abortion based on disability, the conversation needs to move beyond Down’s syndrome. While Down’s is relatable to many people, parents are getting the awful news (usually at 18-20 weeks, when they've already announced and are eagerly anticipating their much-wanted child) that their child has half a heart, no brain, organs missing, organs outside the body, extra chromosomes, not enough chromosomes … on and on and on. There are SO MANY things that can go wrong, and so many family circumstances that factor into the decision. Removing the ability for the doctor and patient to converse freely is simply punitive to families already in a difficult situation.
I don’t blame people for not understanding; I had no idea until my doctor came into my ultrasound (at 22 weeks), put her hand on my knee, and said, “Something doesn’t look quite right, and I’m going to send you to a specialist.”
This next reader gets into much more detail about the severe complications of her pregnancy:
At the outset, I ask that you please withhold my name because only a few friends and family members know this story. I have never had to consider having an abortion because of my baby having a Down Syndrome diagnosis, but my husband and I did face this decision a couple of years ago during our 20-week ultrasound when our baby was diagnosed with something called hypoplastic left heart syndrome.