Red Alert! Your Marriage Is in Danger From the Gays!


John Guardiano of The American Spectator is upset with something I tweeted the other day:

Last night's "historic" vote for "gay marriage" in New York ought to be a wakeup call to the Republican Party and social and cultural conservatives more generally. We are fighting, I regret to say, a losing battle -- and I say that as someone who strongly supports traditional marriage, and who believes that further attempts to undermine its special and privileged place in our society will have serious, baleful consequences.
Of course, liberals and "progressives" mock our concern. "For some reason," tweets The Atlantic's Jeff Goldberg, "I suddenly feel that my heterosexual marriage is under threat."
Goldberg's marriage isn't under threat, but the institution of marriage is -- so much so that marriage rates in America have plummeted and out-of-wedlock births have skyrocketed.

Oh, yeah, baby, I'm a progressive now. Anyway, if I felt that gay marriage posed a threat to my marriage, I would oppose it. And if I felt that gay marriage posed a threat to straight marriage, I would oppose it. First, my marriage: Today is our 18th wedding anniversary. Mrs. Goldblog and I met under the chuppah in Providence, Rhode Island on this day in 1993, and since then, I've given her three or four of the best years of her life. Ha ha, I kid! I kid because I love.

The thing about married people is, we like to be around other married people. It's natural, and its reinforcing. Gay or straight, it doesn't seem to make a difference. Anyone who has embraced the institution of marriage makes me feel good about marriage in general. Sometimes I wonder why gay people seek out marriage at all. From what I understand from my gay friends (sorry, friends who happen to be gay), there are certain advantages to the gay male lifestyle, such as: disposable income, sex with a lot of different people, and more disposable income. And yet, so many gay people seem to want to settle down with one person and build a home and life together. Doesn't this endorsement of marriage by people who have been excluded from marriage suggest something wonderfully traditional and stabilizing about this moment?

Guardiano also argues that gay marriage poses a direct threat to children:

Sure, this breakdown in the family has occurred independent of the push for "marriage equality." But it is still part and parcel of an overarching effort to undermine and deprecate traditional marriage and the traditional family.
It is still part of a broader political and cultural movement to decouple marriage from its principal purpose, which is the care and raising of children.

My marriage these past 14 years has been principally devoted to the care and raising of children, and also to the selection of kitchen tiles. But mostly it's been about children. And this is as it should be. But Guardiano obviously doesn't know very many gay people, because over the past several years, I've seen extraordinary parenting done by gay and lesbian couples, parenting of children who had been actual orphans before they were rescued by the evil gays and provided with homes, stellar educations, and most of all, selfless, limitless parental love. That's what gay marriage is about, then: the embrace by previously-marginalized people of a traditional institution, an institution indispensable for the raising of healthy, whole children.

Our country needs more threats like gay marriage.

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Jeffrey Goldberg is a national correspondent for The Atlantic and a recipient of the National Magazine Award for Reporting. Author of the book Prisoners: A Story of Friendship and Terror, Goldberg also writes the magazine's advice column. More

Before joining The Atlantic in 2007, Goldberg was a Middle East correspondent, and the Washington correspondent, for The New Yorker. Previously, he served as a correspondent for The New York Times Magazine and New York magazine. He has also written for the Jewish Daily Forward, and was a columnist for The Jerusalem Post.

His book Prisoners was hailed as one of the best books of 2006 by the Los Angeles Times, The New York Times, The Washington Post, Slate, The Progressive, Washingtonian magazine, and Playboy. Goldberg rthe recipient of the 2003 National Magazine Award for Reporting for his coverage of Islamic terrorism. He is also the winner of the International Consortium of Investigative Journalists prize for best international investigative journalist; the Overseas Press Club award for best human-rights reporting; and the Abraham Cahan Prize in Journalism. He is also the recipient of 2005's Anti-Defamation League Daniel Pearl Prize.

In 2001, Goldberg was appointed the Syrkin Fellow in Letters of the Jerusalem Foundation, and in 2002 he became a public-policy scholar at the Woodrow Wilson International Center for Scholars in Washington, D.C.

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