An NPR Host's Other Job: Stay-At-Home Dad

By Guy Raz

Sorry it's taken me a few days to post.  We're expecting another baby in a few weeks, dealing with a move, and someone's trying to kill me.

I suspect Jim's temporary absence from the blog has driven some of the traffic away (despite the many many compelling posts from guest bloggers).  That said, when The Atlantic sent me some stuff to read about what makes a good blog post, it occurred to me that a few things were missing.  So, forthwith, I bring to you my attempt to generate a very large viewership with the following embedded video of a very cute baby laughing.

I will do everything I can in the coming days to experiment with search engine optimization by mentioning the terms vaccines, autism, Mustafa Kemal Attaturk (or, in case of alternate spellings, Ataturk), and Ayn Rand and quite possibly may post some original video of my very cute cats wrestling.

The video clip above, however, isn't just a cheap stunt to see if it is possible to attract more readers than Andrew Sullivan. There is a point to this shameless stunt. 

The story behind this video is that a stay-at-home dad received another rejection letter from a potential employer.  He decides to rip it up in front of his son Micah, who, as you can see, finds this gleefully amusing.

So do I.  In part, because I feel a certain sense of solidarity with Micah's dad. 

I look after my 2-year-old on Mondays and Tuesdays.  I work Wednesday through Sunday.  The program I host airs in most places in America from 5 to 6 p.m. Saturday and Sunday.

While I am fortunate to have a job, I'm also fortunate to spend a lot of time with my kid on days when most people are at work.  But on those Mondays and Tuesdays, I also have the privilege of experiencing a taste of life as a stay-at-home dad. 

I take him to an organized playgroup in the morning and in the afternoon, when the weather cooperates, we are at the park.

There I am almost always the lone father among mothers and nannies.  According to the latest census data, there are 158,000 stay-at-home dads in America.  Now this number is misleading because apparently, it does not include fathers who work from home AND look after the kids or dads who may have worked a week or two during the year.  So we can assume the number is much much higher and possibly growing, in part, because of the dismal job market and in part, because childcare is often so unaffordable, that it doesn't make a whole lot of sense for both parents to go to an office or a workplace each day.

Now, this isn't the place to prattle on about the challenges of being a dad in a mommy-dominated world of child-rearing. It's hard work. Even in the most open-minded communities, there's always the snickering and the "Mr. Mom" jokes. 

But here's what I have learned in all of this. One: never ask a stay-at-home parent whether they "work" full-time because raising a child is FULL-TIME WORK!  And two: Dads, don't be offended if the mommies keep you at arm's length. You will never be part of the inner circle.  The mommy solidarity at the park and playgroup is just a fact of life. 

Now all of this takes me to a question one of the mommies asked me in playgroup not too long ago. She was curious about what I do. I explained I host a weekend radio program. She asked, "So does that mean you only have to work Saturday and Sunday?"

I get asked that more than you'd think. And the answer, sadly, is no.

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