In October, a couple asked for a “polite but meaningful phrase” to convey that they were trying to conceive a child. As usual, a nay-saying contingent weighed in. Becky Heydemann, of Evanston, Ill., for instance, wrote, “The only people who should have any ideas at all about one’s sex life, in regard to children or anything else, are the participants and their immediate families.” Jon-Mark C. Patterson, of Loveland, Colo., was equally but differently critical. He wrote, “There is a word for the condition of married people having sex and being open to the possibility that they will have a baby together. That word is normal.”
Also as usual, clever puns and coinages poured in, many of them apt enough if you know what they’re supposed to mean but probably baffling if you don’t. Tom Toce, of New York City, wrote, “I immediately thought of unionizing, especially because the goal is, well, organized labor.” Laura Whitman, of Redwood City, Calif., wrote, “In our group when a couple is married and everyone is wondering what their plans are in regard to procreation, we always ask if they are in the product research or product development phase. Early product development refers to your correspondents’ criteria.” Jessie Kimber, of Ecaussinnes, Belgium, wrote, “My husband and I called it baking, which is an abbreviated baby-making and also hints at the fact that we were trying to put a bun in the oven.”
As for suggestions that were both apt and transparent, Barnabas Sprinkle, of Carrollton, Ga., wrote, “When we shared that we were mating expectantly, we received both chuckles and instant understanding.” Joseph S. Santavicca, of Calabash, N.C., proposed exercising their stork options. And Marc L. Greenberg, of Lawrence, Kan., takes top honors for his brainstorm: “This could be a zygotic episode, particularly if the parents are crazy in love.”
Also in October, a teacher sought a word for the skill of “rapidly turning off a cell phone that rings at an inappropriate moment.” Here, too, there were naysayers—such as Karl Petruso, of Arlington, Texas, who wrote, “I am unable to distill this complex phenomenon to one word. Instead, I would offer the following: Get out of this room. You may return if and when you master the simple courtesy of turning off your phone before you enter my class.”
Cynthia Mulcahy, of Costa Mesa, Calif., wrote, “As a functional illiterate when it comes to technology, all I know to do is open and then close my cell phone when it needs to be quickly silenced. Being also easily amused, I think of this action as playing the sile-phone.” Todd Stockslager, of Raleigh, N.C., argued in favor of broadening the meaning of prestidigitation. Cellerity, demobilization, having good ringflexes, and rapid bye movement were popular suggestions.
Roger Jasaitis, of West Wardsboro, Vt., takes top honors for a good coinage plus one of the better explanations. He wrote, “While I was attending a Quaker worship service (which is predominantly silent), the Friend sitting next to me had his cell phone ring and scrambled to turn it off. This action prompted the word tone-deft to come to mind. You could say that it was divinely inspired.”
Brenda Buescher, of Chanhassen, Minn., writes, “I’d like a word for my husband’s uncanny ability to ask if I need help with a household task at the exact moment that I am finishing it.” Men who take offense at this request are welcome to submit words for women’s uncanny abilities.
Ralph Protsik, of Brookline, Mass., writes, “This fugitive was actually suggested by Dick Cavett in a recent New York Times blog posting, but it’s too good not to forward to you: ‘The unfortunate telling of a story that one realizes too late is ill-suited to the occasion.’”
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