I recently found out that my girlfriend has been reading my email. If I wasn't so angry and disappointed in her, I would be impressed by her snooping skills. She didn't find anything incriminating. I'm not cheating on her, but her last boyfriend did, so she has trust issues. She is constantly asking me about women I'm friends with on Facebook. She goes through my phone and reads my texts. It's exhausting. I don't really know what to do to get us back on track.
It's strange to see such a clear, easy solution to a problem and then have that be the only option that is not available. Of course you have to break up with this person; she is a nightmare.
I'm a firm believer in the idea that if you feel the need to look at your significant other's phone, you already know the answer. Signs of infidelity are usually so painfully obvious: distance, lack of sex, excuses for running late or strange phone calls. But then there is this small percentage that is just inherently jealous and suspicious, which can't exist in a healthy, functioning relationship.
An equally wonderful and terrible part of being human is our ability to adapt to our situations. In your case, controlling and manipulative have become acceptable. You say that you're exhausted, and you should be, because what your girlfriend is doing is completely unacceptable. The only way to stop this behavior is to remove yourself from the situation.
The idea of blaming an ex for current behavior should also be a huge red flag, although I guess everything pales in comparison to reading your private emails. It is one thing to come out of bad relationship being cautious; it is completely another to inflict the punishment on your next partner (that's you, dude). You should start a relationship whole, or as close to whole as you can. Not as a weird, angry creep who wants to make their partner feel as bad as they do.
For your own sake, you've got to bail. It is not going to get better. The new and inventive ways that she will find to spy on your life will shock and amaze you. Maybe with time and therapy she can come back to the relationship as a reasonable, clearheaded adult, but hopefully by then you'll have moved on to someone who trusts and respects you from the get-go. Imagine how nice that will be.
The girl I've been dating has her birthday in a few days and I don't really know the etiquette on what I should do. We've only been dating for a few weeks, maybe a month. Do I get her a gift? And if so, is there a price limit?