You might want to know that every gay man in America has probably had that word shouted at them when they're being beaten up, sometimes many times, sometimes by a lot of people all at once. So when you say it, it kind of brings that all back up. But, you know, by all means use it, get your laughs. But, you know, now you know what it means.
I really like that response. The current dialouge between minority groups and the majority culture puts the burden of judgement on the minority, and casts us as the constant, ever-vigilant, school-marms, while the rest of the country goofs off. I don't have much interest in dictating to people what they say, but I don't have much interest in being lied to either.
From the perspective of my current study, I would not, for instance, ask Southerners to stop honoring Robert E. Lee. Just don't look me in my eye and tell me he was actually in favor of my freedom. Likewise, what I got from Crom's approach was "Tell all the gay jokes you want. Knock yourself out. But take responsibility for what you say. Don't look me in my face and tell me 'faggot' isn't really an insult."
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